Willie "Jean" DuffendackFebruary 17, 2017
WILLIE “JEAN” DUFFENDACK
Willie “Jean” Duffendack, age 90, of Kansas City, KS., was called into the Arms of Christ, February 17, 2017 at Providence Hospital. She was surrounded by members of her family. Jean was a beautician in her early life and loved the profession. She also worked at Western Electric for 10 years.
She is survived by, Judi Walton, Jerry Crawford, Jay Crawford, Carolyn Towndrow, Don Duffendack, Linda Lovia, “her adopted daughter” Pat Hymer, 8 grandchildren and 8 great-grandchildren. Many of the Duffendack grandchildren and great- grandchildren called her grandma.
She was preceded in death husband Joe Crawford and sons, Jack, Jeff and John Crawford and second husband Pat Duffendack.
The family shall receive friends 10:00 AM- Noon, Thursday, February 23, 2017 where services will follow at Noon at the Mary Butler Meyers Funeral Home, 6300 Parallel Pkwy., Kansas City, KS. 66102. Burial will be at 11:00 AM Saturday, February 25, 2017, Lono Cemetery, Malvern, Arkansas.
In lieu of flowers, there will be a memorial contribution to the Field of Dreams, where Jean volunteered for many years.
Eulogy for Jean Duffendack
We are here today to celebrate the life and loves of Willie Jean Duffendack.
Jean, as she liked to be called, was the oldest daughter of William and Imogene Mc Daniel. She was born in a logging camp tent in Link, AK on March 26, 1926. Her father found whatever employment he could in the struggling economies of the rural South. They lived in the Rolla, AK area until she was 18. The family lived, at that time, in the home that we grandchildren knew as Aunt Lula’s house. She recalled the large Live Oaks, the Pecan trees and the swing on the screened in front porch. During the Great Depression, the family maintained a large vegetable garden for food and the children helped harvest; Cotton, Peanuts, Soybeans, Sorghum and Sugar Cane for 50 cents a day to help with expenses. The McDaniel family included Betty, James, Leonard, Don and Thomas.
Mom said their house and their Church used coal oil lamps until she was 15 when they finally got electricity. When they traveled to the white washed Baptist church on Sundays, they went on a gravel road that is still not paved to this day. Her father was a soft spoken lay Baptist preacher who would discuss the Lords gospel but could also pound the pulpit about Hell Fire and Damnation. He was like a warm up band.
When mom was 18 she moved to Hot Springs, AK to attend a beautician’s school. She took a room in a boarding house run by a Mrs. Crawford. The two took and immediate liking to each other and Mrs. Crawford later introduced her to her eldest son Joseph. Jean called Mrs. Crawford “mom” and took care of her later until she died of a critical illness. Joe and Jean were married in the McDaniel home near Rolla by Reverend Bill Mac. They lived in Hot Springs and mom worked for Fordice Bath House and dad for the Arkansas Power and Light. Judy Carolyn Crawford was born there in 1946. In early 1948, Joe took the family to the Central San Joaquin Valley of California in search of agricultural employment. But Joe soon got homesick and they moved back to Hot Springs. Jerry Lynn Crawford was born in Malvern, AK in 1948. In 1950 dad took the family to Wichita, KS to work in the cold war boom for Boeing. Jack Lee Crawford was born there. Joe loved working for Boeing and when he wanted to move to Seattle or Cape Canaveral, mom put her food down and said NO.
In 1953, the family moved to Des Moines, Iowa where Jeffery Herman Crawford was born. In 1954, the family moved to 3435 N 57th street in KCK. They lived across the street from a young Dorothy and Pat Duffendack. John William Crawford was born in KCK. Dorothy volunteered to cook breakfast for the Crawford children that morning and later remarked that she had never seen children who could eat so much French toast. I still remember her serving that delicious treat.
The Crawford’s moved to Coffeeville, KS in 1955 and Dorothy and Carolyn took the bus down to visit mom. In 1960 the family moved back up to Olathe, where Jay Herbert Crawford was born. Mom came into her own as a beautician then when we lived out on South Brockway. We children knew when she was doing beauty work by the smell of peroxide from 3-4 houses away. Mom was working on 3-5 ladies, all at once, around the kitchen table. Mom was in her glory and they all chattered like chickens.
Joe passed in 1968 after 23 years of marriage. Dorothy passed a few years later and in 1974 mom send me a note to saying she and Pat were dating and planned to get married in the spring. Later she told me they eloped in March. Mom moved back up the N 57th street address and she got to catch up on 20+ years’ worth of gossip. Mom accepted the Duffendack children and loved Don, Linda and Carolyn like her own. Mom’s passion for all the Duffendack grandchildren was heart felt and all of them called her “Grandma”. After Patrick passed, Mom, lived alone. But her house was never empty and many family reunions were held there. Judy moved in 4 years ago to take care of her.
Mother was sharp right up till the end. When her niece held her hand and tried to cajole her into how beautiful she was… Mom replied, “You are full of (you can fill in the blank).”
I truly believe mom went immediately into the glory of God’s light when she died. Mother was a true Christian woman who believed in the Lord Jesus Christ as her savior:
John, chapter 5 verse 24: “Verily, verily I say unto thee, He that heareth my word, and believeth, on him that sent me, shall hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life”.
John, chapter 11, verse 26: “Jesus said to her, I am the resurrection and the life: he “that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: And whosoever liveth and believe in me, shall never die. Believeth thou this.”
Let us pray:
Whilst thou allow your daughter Jean,
to leave your bosom for a few moments,
to come back and visit the hearts,
of those who love her yet on earth,
So she may tell them that she is happy
and full of the love of those who have passed before her.
Let us be able to see her bright eyes and smile
And feel her presence and hear her words of comfort.
And then oh Lord,
Let us see that she is one
with the light of Jesus Christ
and that she has become
part of the beacon
that calls us all to heaven.